Your Life Sucks If…


I spent a little time reflecting on pretty much everything this past weekend. While reflecting is certainly a healthy and necessary activity, it also opens the door for comparing, questioning and scrutinizing of you, your accomplishments and your current status.

It’s natural to assess where you’re at, how much you’ve grown and how far you have to go to reach your goals, but what sometimes happens during this assessment is an unplanned round of self sabotage.

Does your self-analysis grow into you hearing your mind saying things like, “look, what (insert name) has already accomplished”, “you sure should be further along than you are”, or “my life sucks, because I haven’t accomplished ________”? First of all, that’s not just your mind. That elusive, demanding and overbearing voice plagues many of us. It causes us to question the many accomplishments that we’ve made over the years. It makes us think that the many graduations, awards, accolades, promotions, merits and major accomplishments mean nothing. It even makes us wonder if our talents, (that so many other people silently and loudly praise) are really worthless and have no place in society.

Take some time this week to write out your accomplishments. You might be thinking, “well, what’s an accomplishment”. That is only for you to answer. For example, I love cheese. So, for me, trying a new type of cheese regularly is an accomplishment. Write out what YOU deem an accomplishment and you’ll quickly see that you indeed have amassed a wealth of personal, professional and fulfilling accomplishments.

Scarlet Says…Your life sucks, if you say it does! Be aware, alert and honest with yourself about what you’ve achieved. When you bash yourself and your accomplishments, others will surely follow.

Until Next Time,

I enjoy doing a lot of things, but at the top of that list is inspiring people to take action and harness their inner CONFIDENCE!! I love assisting people with discovering and reaching their full potential and I do so through the fields of etiquette and leadership. Now, I wouldn't dare say that I’m a traditional etiquette and leadership consultant. This may be a little confusing because what could possibly exude more of a traditional feeling than being a good leader and practicing good etiquette?

But my perspective and approach to leadership is more nuanced and modern. I believe that leadership shouldn’t only coalesce among our C-suite executives. Leadership can be a vast and inclusive concept, and everyone has leadership potential in their own unique way in both professional and social settings (my book, Leader by Mistake, talks all about this). I take great pride in curating and delivering classes and content that inspire people to lead wherever they are and with the tools that that they have so that they can advance to their next level.


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